NotesSessionFour013

Four techniques create models:

Generalization - creates a model from one experience and uses it to represent an entire group of experiences.

Construction - puts information into the model that wasn't in the orginial experience.

Deletion - leaves information out of the model. We delete information based on our interestes, energy level, and experience.

Distortion - blending experiences, (de)emphasizing some parts or otherwise altering the original experience.

Notes from the first exercise:

All mental models are valid (at least for one person).

There was suprise about:

- The similarities
- The influence of culture (wasted, asset, ... )

The emotional aspects of time and the color or other senses that didn't have emotional content.

Were we answering the same question?

Being Aware! (that models exist and may not be the same)

So ...

Be aware other models exist.
Breathe.
Ask quetions to find out about their model.
Listen to find out the other person's intake preference.
Ask them to tell a story.

Notes from the second exercise

For situations where the problem view is external the assumptions were:

There was a lack of control.
Better communications helps.
There is SOME fix.
We need to find a way to work through the problem.

Options:

Heroic action.
Move from opinions to facts.

For situations where the problem view is internal the assumptions were:

We control our own reality.
What we react to may or may not be reality.
In control.
Could do better.
Not necessary to solve the problem, coping is OK.
You can lower your expectations and still be "OK".

Options:

Consider the other person's point of view.
Understand what models are in play.
Pay attention to your body and try to change something. (Break state.)
Switch sides (see the problem from another point of view).
Rule of 3.
You can change how you react!

Other mentions:

Reframing: Neuro-Linguistic Programming and the Transformation of Meaning, Richard Bandler and John Grinder, 1982, Real People Press
Choosing Change http://www.donaldegray.com/Articles/ChoosingChange.pdf

In conclusion, BeckyWinant and DonGray appreciate you for attending "Making Conscious Choices for Change".

Updated: Tuesday, November 30, 2004