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NoBirdsofaFeatherNote added for 2004 This was such a good BOF that I've converted into a regular session for 2004. Hopefully all the nice comments will still apply. - JerryWeinberg 2004.08.04 There's an art to saying NO and making it stick. Nancy Regan is clueless about that, but so are most people. Virginia Satir once suggested I teach a class on how to say NO - she certainly knew. I would be willing to do a NO-BOF at AYE one evening, if others were interested. The extra price is buying my dinner and having it brought in. Any takers? (Ha, I know you can't say NO.) - JerryWeinberg 2002.09.23 Recollections from the BoF (please feel free to add to the list):
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I think I can say "No, I don't want to miss it!", I think I know how to say "No" sometimes, but often not the right ones. - BobLee 2002.09.24 NO-BOF. I love it. Count me in. The need to say NO is a recurring theme in my life. I've coached teams on saying No (to out-of-band requests from Sales and Marketing) by doing a role play. Someone would play "Sales", and would come to a developer with an escalating set of requests, of the type that inject destabilizing "requirements" into a project. The lengths some developers would go to avoid a direct "No" were comical. I'd like to get some coaching on how to be a better coach in these situations. DaveSmith 24 Sep 2002 I have to say that another BOF I am committed to (BbbRr) will be meeting Monday night. If your NO BOF is on Tuesday, I am in. - BeckyWinant 9-24-02 I just realized the irony of holding a NO session at the AYE conference. - JerryWeinberg 2002.09.24 (So, we'll also cover the subject of saying AYE properly. You can't have one without the other.) As a longtime volunteer for community projects, I have long said that you can't say "No," if you're not allowed to say "Yes". Of course, how to say "No" and make it stick is the difficult part. My hopes are dimming of attending this year's AYE, but they will not fade completely until the session starts without me. MikeMelendez 2002.09.24 I possibly can, but will not even try to say "NO" to "learning how to say NO". -- NynkeFokma, September 25, 2002 Count me in. FionaCharles 30-Sep-02 No, I won't miss this opportunity, if only to prove that I can make a decision. - JimBullock, 2002.10.1 Results report: In the event, I said "no" to attending the No-BOF, admitting to fatigue and managing the fact that my appetite exceeded my capacity. I think for 2004 I'll decline to express an intention, and see how that feels. -- JimBullock 2004.08.04 I've been messing up some opportunities to say NO congruently lately, so I think I need to be there. -- LaurentBossavit 2002.10.25 There are alternatives to saying "maybe"? Interesting. I will say "AYE" to NO. -- StephenNorrie 2002.10.30
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